On 90% of Advice Your Default Should Be Thanks But No Thank You

This does not apply to ‘standard’ problems that have mostly been solved. However, if you are working to solve a problem that’s difficult, personal or highly context dependent it’s best to best to be very cautious about who you allow or don’t allow to take opinion on the matter from.

Here’s Why:

  • someone can have an opinion and come from a place of friendship or a trusted individual but not be believable or credible and the advice while well intentioned can come a
  • So your emotional system is hijacked into believing that they must be right but in fact they might just be digging you a hole. Most people like you to succeed but not more than them, don’t be them!
  • But family and friends know me so well!

If you are looking for advice on a matter it should only come from individuals with the following:

  • someone who’s been through the hard situation i.e. high credibility/believable
  • acknowledges their limitations and that they could be wrong
  • Someone who admits their own stage of development that they are on e.g. a young tiger woods will give you different advice than the tiger woods who has already one several Masters

You should acknowledge that what this person is saying is also contextual they might be on V.1 of solving the problem and

Conversations andBooks can be tools to synthesis and generate ideas and frameworks for thinking about the problem but true originality.